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Chandra – „Monosexual women that love ladies planning to have a special label of their own is ok. «Dyke», however, isn’t that tag.»

Explain that please to straight folks you’re present your self as a „dyke» to then. How could they already know that, considering that all dictionaries suggest that „dyke» means „lesbian»:

merriam-webster

collinsdictionary

noun

1. (jargon) a lesbian

dictionary.cambridge

› slang a lesbian . Many people consider this to be term offensive

oxforddictionaries

everyday

A lesbian.

wordreference

[Slang (disparaging and offensive).]

feminine homosexual;

lesbian.

For me, that’s the whole issue right here. That is what men and women understand because of it, if youwill utilize that word, no less than ensure nobody will think that you are «lesbian that’s interested in males». This will be especially important in context of pervading lesbian erasure, of women who’re drawn simply to women.

It’s not only in pop tradition, in which «lesbian sex with men and loving it» remains acutely overused trope, which generally seems to much more plus terrible lately because the after that boundaries are broken (as with «Waterloo Road», in which lesbian character ended up being practically sexually harassed by a guy after he discovered her, that was demonstrated to in the end pay while they ended up having passionate sex, or movie like «The Humbling» getting generated and mainstream audience and experts apparently having no problem with it).

It is also (pseudo) science – I am sure you really have heard about the claims that „all women are turned on by every little thing» – the investigation that reported therefore had insurance about biggest magazines, insinuating that „all women can be bisexual». Whenever that studies have been debunked (like in the outdated research, there was calculated genital reaction, while newer research managed to evaluate clitoral hard-on, and not just it showed that those two had nothing in keeping, but findings on the learn also recommended that genital response is „automatic preparatory reaction in the place of vaginal arousal per se»), it was not included in conventional mass media after all – alike happened in terms of guys, merely backwards, since there happened to be scientific studies which recommended that bisexual men you shouldn’t exist, and this also, had broad protection. When it is been debunked – no body wished to discuss it.

And this payed down and creates lesbophobic, lesbian-erasing perceptions among „open minded» young adults. It’s hard today not to ever notice that „sexuality is liquid» and „no you’re 100per cent some way». Amusing thing is actually, „sexual fluidity» had been popularized by sex specialist Lisa M. Diamond, therefore doesn’t mean at all what the individuals think it indicates – Diamond, considering conclusions of her longitudinal study, actually thinks that sexual positioning is actually good and cannot change, though this lady has really specific concept of intimate positioning („proceptivity», generalized sexual destination).

As seen in internet talks where men and women will be more honest when considering the things they think, „lesbian» actually starts to be comprehended as a „bisexual girl who doesnot want to be in union with a guy». Sadly, really promoted by some queer ladies as well. Like, maybe you have observed „lesbian» subforum on Reddit? It’s full of lesbian identified ladies who are interested in men (some of those accounts are probably fake, but there are also people who confirmed their particular face) whom cherish every one of lots of right guys whom come indeed there to express their particular stories about their „lesbian conquests», saying this shows just how „[lesbian] sex is fluid», they actually straight-up information directly guys that they should not give up their unique lesbian crushes, because „no you’re entirely homosexual» plus „orientation can change» (sensible summary of „sexuality is liquid»). When some lesbian, like in, homosexual woman tries to state any such thing, she’s bullied away.

That’s why I ask you to answer simply for that – for treatment. Truly the way it is, anytime it or perhaps not „dyke» is actually fully understood as synonym of „lesbian», when you really want to recover that label, tell individuals concerning your viewpoint in the place of keeping resentful accusations of biphobia and prejudice limited to lesbians the period their unique issues to you personally. Because that means, you are not actually reclaiming any label for bisexuals, you are only creating people think that you are a lesbian that is into men, encouraging both lesbophobia and lesbian erasure. And yes, i am aware from your feedback it’s maybe not the worry, but how come you expect subsequently that lesbians should demonstrate even more attention and admiration than you demonstrate to them?